Dear Campus Chick,
About giving blowjobs- it seems like everyone's okay with it and guys generally expect it from a serious relationship, but I've never had any interest in it and am, in fact, more than a little afraid of performing oral sex. I've always seen it as repulsive and degrading towards women and had a lot of tension in past relationships over it.
When I express this to others, they mostly say they feel sorry for my boyfriends, and fortunately my current bf is understanding, but is it wrong or weird to not want to give oral sex, even in a comitted, sexually active relationship?
Carrie U of K
Dear Carrie,
There's nothing wrong with that, although most people do "expect" it.
Some people, like you, have no interest in oral sex because they feel it's disgusting and degrading. For someone who's only afraid of it, well, I'd say they just aren't ready for it and will grow out of the "ew" phase.
However, it seems you are morally opposed to it. As long as you are with a partner who loves you and respects you, he will respect your decision not to do this. He may not like it and he may never get over it, but no man should ever pressure you or make you feel guilty for this. I don't think it's wrong. As for it being weird, well, maybe it is a little "abnormal" for college aged kids, but that's ok.
Normality can be boring.
April (Campus Chick)
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